Feeling Discouraged? Here’s How to Stay Grounded and Gain Confidence
We all face our fears and doubts at one point or another. Aversion only works for so long and then you’re back at square one. So how do you boost your mood, raise your confidence levels, and get things done when you feel like you’re having the absolute worst day imaginable?
Here are three spirit-lifting techniques that work for me every time:
Give yourself a pep talk.
As strange as talking to yourself may seem, doing so can take you out of your own head for a moment. Instead of panicking and stressing out when I’m balancing 20 timely tasks at once, I just take a deep breath and tell myself to focus. You’d be amazed at how far a “you can do this!” will go when you’re discouraged! And don’t worry about what co-workers will think if they walk in on your pep talk – there’s a fine line between having an extensive conversation with yourself and muttering a few words of encouragement.
Break from your norms and accomplish something unexpected.
Don’t mope when discouragement sets in. Instead, push yourself outside of your comfort zone and do something different. Fight the urge to crawl back into bed and give up! I don’t know about you, but I want to get out there and kick some ass whenever I hear that nagging voice tell me that I can’t accomplish something. Give your self-doubts the middle finger and channel your energy into a new project or task. Over time, you’ll learn to transform those negative aspects into positive ones and you’ll gradually boost your confidence as a result. Trust me, it works!
Understand that mistakes you make aren’t the end of the world.
Errors are in our nature and we won’t avoid making them no matter how hard we try. End of story. That doesn’t mean you should adopt an indifferent attitude about your job or the task at hand, but it means you shouldn’t freak out about every mistake! Most errors will eventually get fixed and blow over, so it’s unlikely that a catastrophe will damage your image beyond repair. If you screw up, then take a deep breath and do your best to right the wrong. Calmly tell yourself that your error isn’t the end of the world and use your newfound knowledge to create a better experience next time.
You don’t have to stress out and get down on yourself when things appear bleak. Whether you’re discouraged about starting your own business, finishing that blog post, completing that long-delayed project around the house, or whatever the issue may be, that feeling of helplessness probably isn’t inspiring you to take action. So, climb out of that rut and push yourself to get things done even more effectively than before! Your self esteem will thank you for it.
Which methods do you use to remain sane and obliterate your fears? Do you have any confidence-boosting tips?
Jill has been obsessed with words since her fingers could turn the pages of a book. She’s a hopeless bibliophile who recently purchased a Kindle after almost 6 years of radical opposition, and she loves stumbling upon new music on Pandora. Random interests include (but are not limited to) bookstores, movie memorabilia, and adorable rodents. Jill writes for the QLP blog and assists with the company’s social media accounts. You can connect with Jill on Google+.